Then I Stopped Being Able To Close The Wardrobe Door
Every new year, I think about the bookshop where I worked as a teenager. Specifically, a shift I always did on 24th December. While the shop was open that day, we were very busy with last-minute Christmas shoppers. Then after closing the staff stayed for an extra two hours to turn what had been a festive wonderland of abundant decorations and displays of lovely books into an austere landscape of piled up diet manuals and memoirs of recovery against the odds. It had to be suitable for the "new year, new me" customers who would come through the door the next time we opened. It always felt rather jarring, given that at the time we were making this switchover, Christmas hadn't even happened yet.
I think about this because it makes me remember how utterly arbitrary our January interest in resolutions and goals is. I'm a sucker for a new hack or "one weird trick" — normally, purchasing a new notebook — if I get too invested in the idea that something about me has to change. I have to ask myself: is this really something I want to do, or am I merely reacting to the fact that the world has (metaphorically speaking) just replaced all of the Christmas decorations with diet books? In fact, I find that the best use for this season of self-improvement is to do some thinking about what has worked in the past rather than making any changes or rash promises for future change.
Last year, I made the first Thursday Thirteen post of the year a round-up of small habits or new activities I had acquired in the previous 12 months and which I planned to continue. I'm doing that again today. These are little things that have brought me joy, made my life a bit easier, or helped me get closer to my big-picture intentions. They are, of course, specific to my life and are not inteneded to be universal advice. Perhaps you will find a spark of inspiration below for your own version.
Normal service with links will resume next week, once I've spent enough time on the internet again to find some good ones.
- Only subscribe to one streaming service at a time. I absolutely despise paging through the homepage of Netflix (or any other streamer) looking for something, anything, I can bear to watch. I usually get frustrated and just pick a show, which I then abandon twenty minutes in because I don't like it, and start scrolling again. It's the opposite of relaxing. Eventually, I came to realise that this was a problem caused by there being too much choice. Having subscriptions to multiple streaming services (a significant financial outlay) was creating such a vast pool of things I could watch that I was actually watching very little. Since all the major ones let you subscribe by the month and then cancel without penalty, I now just have one at a time. I keep a list of shows and films I'm interested in seeing (compiled from reviews and personal recommendations) and then when I'm ready to choose my next service, I pick the one with the longest accumulated list of things I want to see on it. If there's enough, I might even keep it for two months! You can also be quite broad in what you choose to define as a "streaming service" — one month, we had Dropout, for instance, a video library made by the people who used to run CollegeHumor. I watched lots of their show Smartypants, in which funny people give Powerpoint presentations about their niche obsessions/irritations (it has big Taskmaster energy). Since I implemented this system, there has been no more annoying scrolling or watching of terrible documentaries "just to put something on" while we eat dinner. If you keep the date that you join/cancel each one consistent — I aim for the last day of the month — it makes it easy to avoid being caught by an auto-renew.
- Have a toilet bag that stays in your luggage. I had seen this tip a lot but only implemented it in 2025. It's incredible. I used to spend ages squeezing creams into smaller tubes and often forgot something vital, like toothpaste. Now I keep the complete travel toilet bag in my most-used rucksack and know that when I've packed it, I've packed everything I will need. The only maintenance you need to do comes at the end of a trip when you top up or replace anything in the bag before you put it away.
- After cooking, wait until food is room temperature to eat it. Somewhere along the way while I was learning to cook, I internalised the rule that everything needs to be as hot as possible at the moment that you put it on the table and/or the plate. Hotter than the sun, if possible. Which is just not true, and is in fact a recipe for burning your mouth when you take the first bite. I've started letting dishes rest for a bit after coming out of the oven, or dishing up and then doing a couple of minutes of tidying up before tucking in. It's a revelation! I don't want my food to be stone cold, but I don't want it to be piping hot either. When it's just nicely warm, you can properly taste all of the flavours that you spent so long trying to cultivate.
- Wash your head, not your hair. This one is very personal to me and my type of hair/scalp so your mileage may vary. However, I've found it much more useful when shampooing to think about washing the surface of my head rather than the strands of hair that hang from it. I get a much more thorough clean this way, more akin to the wonderful scrub they do when you go to the hairdressers.
- Throw things away, even if it is uncomfortable. Overconsumption is awful, but hoarding things that you don't want/need but can't bear the idea of going to landfill is awful too. Especially if the things are now broken and useless and degrading the experience of being in your space. Get rid of things in the most responsible possible way (repurpose, sell, donate, recycle, throw away) and then don't buy too many things again. This last bit is the hardest part.
- Do a pantry audit. One afternoon while trying to avoid doing some work I didn't want to do, I took everything out of the kitchen cupboards, checked the expiry dates, made a quick tally on a piece of paper of what we had, and then put back what we could still eat. I've been keeping up with my record since, and it's quite eye-opening how much less food we've been buying now that I know what we already have. I'm sure there are fancy apps and databases that you can use for this, although I tend to find that the lofi, quick way is usually the way that will stick for me.
- Use chopsticks to eat snacks. I'm sure everyone who uses chopsticks as their primary cutlery already knows this. I've only just learned that using them to eat crisps/crackers/nuts is a great way to munch and keep your hands clean at the same time.
- Mend things, even if you can't do a perfect job. This is connected to my throwing away point, above. I used to have a graveyard of clothes in the bottom of my wardrobe that needed a minor repair, like a darn or a patch or a missing button replacing. I wouldn't throw them away, but I also wouldn't just do the job because I was waiting for some mythical future moment when I would be "better" at mending. (This attitude might have been caused by watching too much aesthetic mending content on TikTok and Instagram, before I quit social media.) It got so bad that I stopped being able to close the wardrobe door so had to do something about the pile. It turns out, it doesn't really matter if my darning is unattractive or my sewing is crooked. It's just nice to be able to use my things again.
- Enjoy inconsequential chats with strangers. It's pleasant to talk to people, even for a couple of minutes, about their holiday or their dog or what they're making for dinner that night. I don't pursue random strangers with my desire for conversation, obviously, but if we get chatting anyway because of a transport delay/our dogs playing together, I now let myself enjoy it rather than constantly scanning the horizon for the nearest exit.
- Make your homepage blank. Methods for doing this will vary by device or operating system (just search for yours), but I highly recommend making the homepage for your browser a blank page of some sort. In Chrome, you can just make it about:blank. I find that it forces me to remember what I opened it for in the first place, rather than getting sucked into looking at recommended news stories or whatever other algorithmic stuff it tries to serve you.
- Use bar soap. I have really got into solid soap in the last year. I'm very prone to dry skin and it seems to help with that (probably because I'm using less of it per wash) and it also generates way less plastic waste. It lasts for ages, too, and you can easily buy it from small businesses rather than big chains. I'm personally partial to the products of The Soap Dairy in the Lake District, but I'm sure there will be something lovely local to you. I have a sisal soap sack for in-shower exfoliation and a travel tin. You can also get dry bags for travelling with your soap, although I've been fine so far with the tin. As a bonus, you don't have to worry about it at airport security, as it counts as a solid not a liquid.
- Replace paper towels with cloths. We've accumulated a lot of random cleaning cloths over the years. I also now generate more in my ongoing attempt to find uses for old fabric rather than sending it to landfill (just cut it up and roughly hem it!). They are now my paper towels. I lay them out in a long row on the kitchen counter, slightly overlapping, and then I wind the whole lot tightly around our paper towel spindle (we have the kind that is just a stick on a base, like this). Then you can just take one off any time you need something to mop up a spill etc. Ideally I would have a dedicated place to put the dirty ones, perhaps in a bin under the sink until I have enough for a wash, but I'm still working on that and currently just throw them straight in the washing machine with whatever is going next. They air dry on a spinner thing in the airing cupboard and then join the queue to be used again. I do still keep a roll of disposable paper towels in the cupboard for jobs that can't be done any other way (sometimes you just need one to germinate some seeds on) but the cloths do most of the everyday work.
- Use your RSS reader for everything. I use my RSS reader for keeping track of all sorts of things, not just blogs and websites. My one of choice is Feedly and it can handle email newsletters, subreddits, YouTube channels, Patreons, podcasts and more. I like having all of my content easily browsable in the same place and find that it helps me spend less time aimlessly clicking around the internet getting distracted.
Do you have any little life improvements like this that you'll be sticking with for the next year? Tell us all about them in the comments.
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